Thinking about Adoption? Have you considered the Waiting Childl?
When my husband and I first started our adoption process, these children were referred to as Special Needs which can be a scary term.
But what if instead we called them “Waiting Children”? Doesn’t sound as intimidating, right, and it is the truth as well! Furthermore, what if we thought of “Special Needs” kids as “special”, amazing children in “need” of or waiting for a forever family? What if God had said, “oh, I don’t want to save people with problems, only perfect people”? None of us are worthy of Him. We are all special cases in comparison to our great God. Praise God, that He, in His mercy, sent his only and perfect Son to die for all of us (John 3:16)!
When our caseworker mentioned this list as a possibility to us, we looked at each and said, “we don’t think so”, but God had other plans. He began to work in our hearts and brought people into our lives who had adopted children from China on the waiting child list and showed us that He had a completely different plan than we were thinking of for our adopted child. He showed us that we didn’t need be scared of this special list of children but rather to see them as beautiful children created by their creator, perfect in His eyes, and waiting for us to adopt them! The truth of the matter is that many children on this list in China have things that can easily corrected in the United States such as cleft lip/palate or limb deformities. Of course, there are children on these lists with more severe issues, so pray about God’s plan for your adoption and seek His will alone. Don’t focus on the fact that you want a “healthy” child but rather on the child God has for you. Step out in faith, knowing that His plan is far greater than any you could ever imagine. Yes, there will rapids along the way, but He has promised to carry you through those times of trial and difficulty that are inevitable. He will be faithful. WE CAN TRUST HIM!! “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understand. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” (Prov. 3:5-6)
Meet Grace Lihua
Grace is a vivacious fun loving six year old who makes friends everywhere she goes. She was born in 2009 and joined our family in May of 2011. Grace has deformities in her fingers and toes. She is missing her big toe on her left foot and the middle toes on her right foot are fused together as one. Additionally, her right foot was a slight club foot. Her index finger on her left hand is not properly formed and two of her middle fingers on her right hand are short. We took her to a renowned pediatric hand surgeon at Scottish Rite in Dallas who did some work on her right hand to help with mobility and will do on a follow up surgery on each hand in a few years. We also went through a series of casts on her right foot/leg to work on stretching the muscles and helping the foot straighten. While all this sounds complicated, God has walked with us every step of the way, and we are excited to watch His plans for her life unfold!
Meet Anthony Jianyou
Anthony is full of life and energy with a flair for the dramatic! He is extremely intelligent and is picking up English with incredible speed. He was born in 2004 and joined our family in January of 2013. Anthony has a deformity in his right arm and hand. He was missing the bones in his right thumb and the radius bone in his forearm is shorter causing his arm to slightly curve in. Additionally, the muscles in his right arm are very weak. The same doctors who worked on Grace’s hand performed a surgery on his hand in October of 2013. They removed the limp thumb and moved his index finger to the location of the thumb so that he now has an opposable thumb, providing him with more mobility and ease when grabbing things with that hand. It is truly amazing! We are excited to continue to share with Him the incredible, unending, perfect love of God who created him for a special purpose ordained by God.
Meet Eva Hanting
Eva loves with every fiber of her being, and she displays the same veracity with every emotion in her little heart. Eva joined our family just one year ago. Her transition was the most difficult, but she is simply amazing. Eva has deformed fingers. We will traveling Scottish Rite Hospital in Dallas very soon to discuss possible surgeries for Eva. While Eva’s transition was difficult, her fierce love for us now means so much more. God is faithful and He as some very special for our sweet little girl.
Our greatest struggle will be dealing with our children’s hurt feelings when other children ask them why their hands and feet are different. We know and will always communicate to them that God see them as perfect and beautiful, but that we live in a fallen world, so there will be questions and looks. Haven’t we all experienced the cruelty of children at some point in our lives? Did any of us escape the teen years unscathed, without a hurt feeling stemming from ridicule by someone over something “wrong” with you? Of course, this will break our hearts, but we pray that we will use these opportunities to point our precious babies to the One who loves them more than any of us could imagine or fathom.
My Children are BEAUTIFUL! See my post about this here.
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” (I Peter 3:3-4, NIV)
To quote Johnny Diaz, “More Beautiful You”,
“There could never be a more beautiful you
Don’t buy the lies, disguises and hoops, they make you jump through
You were made to fill a purpose that only you could do
So there could never be a more beautiful you.”
Interested in learning more about waiting children in China or elsewhere? Check out the following websites:
Gladney Center for Adoption Asia Waiting Child Program
Superkids Charity Blog
Love without Boundaries
No Hands But Ours
Half the Sky
Bethel China Foundation
An Orphan’s Wish
New Day Foster Home
We are Grafted In
National Council for Adoption